There's a fine line between helping and meddling. And not trace us, but the other person. Is not the same reach out to pull the arm.
There are situations that are seen most clearly from the outside, but there are many in which the factors involved, or how they work, are not fully appreciated without being stuck to the neck. And get into quicksand to get someone who has fallen on them will only lead us to sink us both.
We tend to overestimate, in relation to others. To think we are more discerning, or more skilled. To think you know what happens, and even they prefer. That we pay adequate support, without considering for a moment if it really is, or is even necessary. At best, we aim to guide the way we prefer, at worst, even pushed in the direction we think "right."
Let the other the power to decide what they want to do with his life, the power to choose whether or not our help. Keep us apart even from what we believe our responsibility, willing to go if you ask for, but inactive until then, much as we think is needed or we can make a difference. Because that decision is not for us to take it to us.
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